I came across something I hadn’t seen before: a woman’s profile who left her “body type” blank. Nuh uh, I said – you have to answer that one for me to consider you!

Of course, I know enough about looking out for the angles, that it’s hard to fool me when it comes to this question. But to me, it’s a self-confidence, and self-comfort issue if a woman doesn’t either answer this, or provide a clear body shot.

In general, do women sandbag in this category? This coule be a product of my aforementioned expertise, but in my experience, not really. Or, if they do, maybe I’ve just managed to adjust?

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One of these days, I’ll get around to writing a well-thought-out post on actually going on dates, but until then, check out Seth’s post on questions to ask on a date, over at The Dating Papers. He’ll tell you about Flash Factor, Need Factor, and Trunk Factor. While you’re there, read all of the rest of his posts – he has the part from first date on down much better than I do!

Personally, I don’t pay a great deal of attention to a screenname on an online profile, but according to one study choosing the right screenname is important. Turns out that names like “fun2bewith” or “imsweet” tended to rank highly. But watch out, guys – don’t get too cute. Women were weary of names that were too flirtatious, while names that suggested a guy was well-cultured did alright.

What’s my recommendation? One of the most important goals of your online profile is to provide little conversation nuggets for when you finally do meet your dream woman. Sure, one of the other goals is to get her interested, but these things go hand in hand. So, I recommend going with something very personal or specific, and have a story ready for that inevitable question of what it means.

For example, let’s say you choose the screenname ”tratdigiorno,” because there was a romantic trattoria that you used to walk by when you were 12 years old, and when you looked at it, you thought to yourself “some day I’d like to take a gal there.” Boom – you have a screenname that is mysterious, original, personal, and with a great story to go along with it – and ultimately memorable. Pick your own, real story and screenname, though :) Some other things that may inspire your winning screenname may be literary or movie characters, food, influential people in your life, etc.. Whatever it is, the important traits are that it is specific/personal, and that it has a good story to go along with it, and that it’s all real.

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