How NOT to Write an Online Dating Message
A female reader forwarded to me this incredible match.com message.
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Sounds like this guy could take my advice about rejection and online dating. In summary, there’s so much volume when dating online, that you can’t be expected to decline every offer you get, especially in big cities, like where this reader lives. Also, there are plenty of reasons why someone might not respond.
Women, especially high-quality women, get an incredible amount of winks and e-mails on online dating sites. I’ve heard some women describe managing it all as “like a full-time job.” So:
- Don’t dwell on any one potential match whom you may or may not hear back from.
- Communicate with lots of matches.
- Don’t take it personally if some – or most – of them don’t respond. Not receiving a response to an e-mail is far less harsh than treatment you have probably received when attempting to approach a woman in physical space.
Got any no no communication tidbits you’ve received? Send them my way. I’ll keep you both anonymous.
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