Match Winks: an Overview
I get a lot of questions from faithful readers about Match.com’s “Wink” feature. Is it okay to use? What do you do if someone winks at you? What if you wink at someone and they don’t wink back?
For the guys, let me summarize it with this photo:
- This feature is intended to let a member show interest in another member without going too far “on a limb,” so to speak. GUYS, don’t EVER use this feature to show interest in a woman. I have yet to meet one who didn’t think that this was downright creepy.
- However, it’s generally acceptable for women to use this feature. Much like in the “real” world, it’s up to the guys to do the heavy approaching.
- Getting winks from women, is the preferred way to initiate contact. Huh? Yeah, you can make women who are interested wink at you by doing the “who’s viewed me” shuffle or using some tricks of the marketing trade. The best of which is to end your “about me” by telling them to wink at you.
- Guys, once you do get a wink from a woman, don’t wink back. Write them a message. Preferably in one-line hook form.
In general, I’d say to the ladies: please do use this feature. It’s quick and easy, and you shouldn’t feel bad if you don’t get a message in response.