Comments on: Match Winks: an Overview

By: Bonnie

Bonnie — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 05:53:20 +0000

I’m new to Match.com…about a month. I refuse to answer to a wink. Like, really…you can’t compose a 1-2 liner e-mail…but I’m guessing you’re expecting me to?! It may be the internet, but I still like to be a little persued.

By: House Enhancement

House Enhancement — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 10:44:53 +0000

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By: Kenya

Kenya — Sun, 03 Apr 2011 21:27:12 +0000

Ok, I was just curious about this whole winking thing because I just don’t know what to do with it. I get that it’s investment to write a message, but taking two seconds to comment about something in a girl’s profile shouldn’t be to hard. I’m just not going to respond to winks to because they haven’t drawn me in. Most of them I haven’t even bothered to look at their profile.

By: Coleen

Coleen — Fri, 14 Jan 2011 23:14:04 +0000

I guess I have to live in the minority and say, as a female, I don’t mind winks at all – online that is. Yes, it would be creepy to be having wine with friends and some guy winks at me from across the room. However, online I equate the match.com wink with saying “hi”. I’m curious; would women find it less offensive if there was a “Hello” button rather than “wink”?

By: Judy

Judy — Thu, 23 Dec 2010 15:59:30 +0000

Thanks for this note..I AGREE 100% .. winking is the equivalnet of honking your horn at a woman….:)

By: Introducing Match.com Mondays! | really cold ice

Introducing Match.com Mondays! | really cold ice — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 23:11:05 +0000

[...] dating doesn’t seem to be for me. I can look at hundreds of pictures, send unlimited “winks” and respond to every email, but until I actually meet someone in person, see how they carry [...]

By: russruggles

russruggles — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 23:56:12 +0000

It sounds like it worked for you – I’m glad to hear it! Thanks for sharing.

By: Brian B

Brian B — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 20:50:33 +0000

I did teh Shuffle and got two winks the next day. Very cool tip!

By: Brian B

Brian B — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 06:03:22 +0000

I agree that winking is lame. Get some balls. But wasting time on long emails doesn’t work either. I like your idea of a hook. One sentence to get some interest. Quick, but effective to find out if she wants to talk.

By: russruggles

russruggles — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 17:56:07 +0000

Tony, it’s pretty widely accepted that women prefer messages. So much so that Match.com says right in their emails “women prefer messages.”

I’m not big on sending messages to women who have shown no interest either. That’s why I recommend the “Who’s Viewed Me Shuffle.” If a woman has looked at your profile, that is a small expression of interest.

It’s my stance that *winking* is pathetically unagressive; and *strategic* first contact through messages is the way to go. Have you had success otherwise? Please share.