OkCupid has conducted an interesting study regarding response rates based upon specific key words used in opening online dating messages. Pretty fascinating, huh?

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A female reader forwarded to me this incredible match.com message. Wow. The most entertaining thing is that this e-mail’s subject is “2nd attempt,” as if such an attack could be considered an “attempt” to win a woman over.

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I love download Bone Dry getting e-mails from you guys, especially when they’re about your successes. Here’s one I got this morning: Russ, you are a fucking genius! I was out flailing on Match.com for a week before I read your columns and watched the tutorials Tombstone movie . I’m a guy who normally does pretty good […]

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There’s one very simple piece of advice you can follow to improve your online dating profile, and profile photos, and online dating messages tremendously: inject all of them with as many conversation nuggets as you possibly can. What is a conversation nugget? Simply, something specific and potentially interesting that can be the subject of a […]

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So, you’ve made first contact with someone of interest (hopefully you used the who’s viewed me shuffle and/or the one-line hook), and now you want to go on a date with them. Here are a few guidelines on how to do that. First of all, it’s better to meet very early on than to let […]

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I got a really great question from one of you folks about rejection. I don’t like rejection, either receiving or dishing it out, but the latter a lot more so. If a woman winks and you’re not interested how should you deal with it?  Click “not interested”, send a message or just ignore it? What […]

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Able to get a response to your online dating e-mails, but don’t know what to do next? I’ll talk about that in this video: Note that I talk about the one-line hook for writing a great first online dating message.

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Here’s a video demonstrating the “Who’s Viewed Me” Shuffle, a Match.com searching technique that will get women to wink at you, thus conserving your resources and getting her to express interest in you. This puts you in a more favorable position when writing that first message.

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I get a lot of questions from faithful readers about Match.com’s “Wink” feature. Is it okay to use? What do you do if someone winks at you? What if you wink at someone and they don’t wink back? For the guys, let me summarize it with this photo: Well, that’s really simplifying it, but I’ll […]

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Ross Felix, a commenter on David Evan’s blog, Online Dating Insider, brought up an excellent point: Match.com 15 mil users / 1.32 million premium members = 91% of the people can’t reply to your email without upgrading their membership. That’s right, if you didn’t get a response to the last message you sent out to […]

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If, try as you might, you can’t get a lady interested enough to wink on match.com instead of writing messages, and there’s a special woman you’re set on contacting, I’ve got a tip for you. Nothing I’ve found works better than “the one-line hook.” This is a one-sentence question that is relevant to something in the […]

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It doesn’t matter how well you write your profile, if you don’t present yourself attractively with your profile photos, women won’t even get to the part of reading about you. Period. A good main profile photo will ensure that a match click’s through to see more when you do The “Who’s Viewed Me” Shuffle. But, […]

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So, you’ve browsed dozens of profiles, reading every last detail, and you’ve finally got your heart set on this one woman whom you’re sure is the woman of your dreams. You spend hours trying to craft the wittiest message that you can, and lo and behold – she never writes back. Now you’ve spent all […]

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The trick to having a successful first contact with a potential match is getting her to contact you first; and for her to decide to contact you, she has to see you first. So, what I like to do is make a point of clicking through to alot of (attractive) women’s profiles – even if […]

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There are few prospects more daunting than summing yourself up in a few hundred words on an online dating profile. Look around at enough women’s profiles, and you’re sure to see something to the effect of “it’s so hard to write about myself” time and time again. Some won’t even bother trying and will settle […]

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