Ask Russ: Someone Winked at Me - Are They a Match Member?

Ask Russ: Someone Winked at Me – Are They a Match Member?

| Tips & Advice
I got a good question via e-mail today: I was reading your blog post about eliciting winks from gals on match.com, and also the post pointing out that the majority of people with profiles aren't actually members.  So my question is, when you receive a wink 1) how can
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Don't Talk About Yourself

Don’t Talk About Yourself

| Writing Messages
One of the most common complaints I hear from women about guys they date is that they talk about themselves too much. To see this phenomenon in action, watch any episode of Millionaire Matchmaker. It's natural to want to talk about yourself. After all, what in this worl
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Ask Russ: Time or Day of Online Dating Messages?

Ask Russ: Time or Day of Online Dating Messages?

| Writing Messages
An interesting e-mail question I got about time of day you send your online dating messages: Does the time you email someone matter? Currently I make it a rule not to respond to or send emails over the weekend (Friday night until Sunday night). Does the time I send
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Match.com's VIP Mail, and Why You Shouldn't Use It

Match.com’s VIP Mail, and Why You Shouldn’t Use It

| Match
You may have noticed a brand-new feature on Match.com today. It's called "VIP mail." Basically, it's a "special" message that you can only send once per week. The idea being that whomever you send it to will be impressed and flattered. Funny thing is, when you start
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How to find the best women on Match.com

How to find the best women on Match.com

| Candidate Screening
Sort your matches by "Newest First." High quality women get more attention in real life, and online is far from being an exception. Keep an eye on this because you can get to her before she gets so bombarded by morons that she gives up on the site entirely. Since
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Follow-up Online Dating Message Advice

Follow-up Online Dating Message Advice

| Dating, First Contact, First Date, Online Dating, Tips & Advice, Writing Messages
So, you've mined the conversation nuggets from your target's profile, you've sent short, funny, and brilliant one-line hook, and boom, you've gotten a response. Now what? This is a very critical point in the online dating process, but this is the final step before meeti
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What to say in a first online dating message

What to say in a first online dating message

| First Contact, Online Dating, Online Dating Sites, Tips & Advice, Writing Messages
OkCupid has conducted an interesting study regarding response rates based upon specific key words used in opening online dating messages. To summarize: Netspeak, such as "ur" and "luv" are a definite FAIL. However, expressing amusement by saying stuff like "h
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Conversation Nuggets in Online Dating

Conversation Nuggets in Online Dating

| Dating, Dating Profile Photos, Dating Profile Strategy, Dating Profile Writing, First Contact, Match, Online Dating, Tips & Advice, Writing Messages
There's one very simple piece of advice you can follow to improve your online dating profile, and profile photos, and online dating messages tremendously: inject all of them with as many conversation nuggets as you possibly can. What is a conversation nugget? Simply
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How to Get a Date Online

How to Get a Date Online

| Dating, Dating Profile Strategy, Dating Profile Writing, First Contact, First Date, Match, Online Dating, Tips & Advice, Writing Messages
So, you've made first contact with someone of interest (hopefully you used the who's viewed me shuffle and/or the one-line hook), and now you want to go on a date with them. Here are a few guidelines on how to do that. First of all, it's better to meet very early on tha
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Get “Winks” on Match with the “Who’s Viewed Me” Shuffle

| Dating, First Contact, Match, Online Dating, Online Dating Sites, Screencasts, Tips & Advice, Video, Writing Messages
Here's a video demonstrating the "Who's Viewed Me" Shuffle, a Match.com searching technique that will get women to wink at you, thus conserving your resources and getting her to express interest in you. This puts you in a more favorable position when writing that first
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Match Winks: an Overview

Match Winks: an Overview

| Dating, First Contact, Match, Online Dating, Tips & Advice
I get a lot of questions from faithful readers about Match.com's "Wink" feature. Is it okay to use? What do you do if someone winks at you? What if you wink at someone and they don't wink back? For the guys, let me summarize it with this photo: Well, that's re
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Why Your Match.com Message Isn't Getting a Response

Why Your Match.com Message Isn’t Getting a Response

| Match, Online Dating, Tips & Advice
Ross Felix, a commenter on David Evan's blog, Online Dating Insider, brought up an excellent point: Match.com 15 mil users / 1.32 million premium members = 91% of the people can’t reply to your email without upgrading their membership. That's right, if you didn't ge
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