Ask Russ: Someone Winked at Me - Are They a Match Member?

Ask Russ: Someone Winked at Me – Are They a Match Member?

| Tips & Advice
I got a good question via e-mail today: I was reading your blog post about eliciting winks from gals on match.com, and also the post pointing out that the majority of people with profiles aren't actually members.  So my question is, when you receive a wink 1) how can
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Ask Russ: Time or Day of Online Dating Messages?

Ask Russ: Time or Day of Online Dating Messages?

| Writing Messages
An interesting e-mail question I got about time of day you send your online dating messages: Does the time you email someone matter? Currently I make it a rule not to respond to or send emails over the weekend (Friday night until Sunday night). Does the time I send
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Match.com's VIP Mail, and Why You Shouldn't Use It

Match.com’s VIP Mail, and Why You Shouldn’t Use It

| Match
You may have noticed a brand-new feature on Match.com today. It's called "VIP mail." Basically, it's a "special" message that you can only send once per week. The idea being that whomever you send it to will be impressed and flattered. Funny thing is, when you start
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Follow-up Online Dating Message Advice

Follow-up Online Dating Message Advice

| Dating, First Contact, First Date, Online Dating, Tips & Advice, Writing Messages
So, you've mined the conversation nuggets from your target's profile, you've sent short, funny, and brilliant one-line hook, and boom, you've gotten a response. Now what? This is a very critical point in the online dating process, but this is the final step before meeti
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How NOT to Write an Online Dating Message

How NOT to Write an Online Dating Message

| Dating, First Contact, Match, Online Dating, Tips & Advice, Writing Messages
A female reader forwarded to me this incredible match.com message. Wow. The most entertaining thing is that this e-mail's subject is "2nd attempt," as if such an attack could be considered an "attempt" to win a woman over. Sounds like this guy could take my ad
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Does my Online Dating Advice Really Work?

Does my Online Dating Advice Really Work?

| Writing Messages
I love download Bone Dry getting e-mails from you guys, especially when they're about your successes. Here's one I got this morning: Russ, you are a fucking genius! I was out flailing on Match.com for a week before I read your columns and watched the tutorials
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Conversation Nuggets in Online Dating

Conversation Nuggets in Online Dating

| Dating, Dating Profile Photos, Dating Profile Strategy, Dating Profile Writing, First Contact, Match, Online Dating, Tips & Advice, Writing Messages
There's one very simple piece of advice you can follow to improve your online dating profile, and profile photos, and online dating messages tremendously: inject all of them with as many conversation nuggets as you possibly can. What is a conversation nugget? Simply
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How to Get a Date Online

How to Get a Date Online

| Dating, Dating Profile Strategy, Dating Profile Writing, First Contact, First Date, Match, Online Dating, Tips & Advice, Writing Messages
So, you've made first contact with someone of interest (hopefully you used the who's viewed me shuffle and/or the one-line hook), and now you want to go on a date with them. Here are a few guidelines on how to do that. First of all, it's better to meet very early on tha
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Rejection and Online Dating

Rejection and Online Dating

| Dating, First Date, Match, Online Dating, Tips & Advice
I got a really great question from one of you folks about rejection. I don't like rejection, either receiving or dishing it out, but the latter a lot more so. If a woman winks and you're not interested how should you deal with it?  Click "not interested", send a messa
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Get “Winks” on Match with the “Who’s Viewed Me” Shuffle

| Dating, First Contact, Match, Online Dating, Online Dating Sites, Screencasts, Tips & Advice, Video, Writing Messages
Here's a video demonstrating the "Who's Viewed Me" Shuffle, a Match.com searching technique that will get women to wink at you, thus conserving your resources and getting her to express interest in you. This puts you in a more favorable position when writing that first
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Match.com's iPhone App: an Overview

Match.com’s iPhone App: an Overview

| Dating, Match, Online Dating
Match.com recently released an iPhone app, so those amongst you who are lucky enough to one one of these splendid devices can quickly check the status of your account while on the go. Using this app is much like checking your Match.com profile on your web browser
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Why Your Match.com Message Isn't Getting a Response

Why Your Match.com Message Isn’t Getting a Response

| Match, Online Dating, Tips & Advice
Ross Felix, a commenter on David Evan's blog, Online Dating Insider, brought up an excellent point: Match.com 15 mil users / 1.32 million premium members = 91% of the people can’t reply to your email without upgrading their membership. That's right, if you didn't ge
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