Ask Russ: Someone Winked at Me - Are They a Match Member?

Ask Russ: Someone Winked at Me – Are They a Match Member?

| Tips & Advice
I got a good question via e-mail today: I was reading your blog post about eliciting winks from gals on match.com, and also the post pointing out that the majority of people with profiles aren't actually members.  So my question is, when you receive a wink 1) how can
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Don't Talk About Yourself

Don’t Talk About Yourself

| Writing Messages
One of the most common complaints I hear from women about guys they date is that they talk about themselves too much. To see this phenomenon in action, watch any episode of Millionaire Matchmaker. It's natural to want to talk about yourself. After all, what in this worl
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How to Get a Date Online

How to Get a Date Online

| Dating, Dating Profile Strategy, Dating Profile Writing, First Contact, First Date, Match, Online Dating, Tips & Advice, Writing Messages
So, you've made first contact with someone of interest (hopefully you used the who's viewed me shuffle and/or the one-line hook), and now you want to go on a date with them. Here are a few guidelines on how to do that. First of all, it's better to meet very early on tha
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Rejection and Online Dating

Rejection and Online Dating

| Dating, First Date, Match, Online Dating, Tips & Advice
I got a really great question from one of you folks about rejection. I don't like rejection, either receiving or dishing it out, but the latter a lot more so. If a woman winks and you're not interested how should you deal with it?  Click "not interested", send a messa
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Get “Winks” on Match with the “Who’s Viewed Me” Shuffle

| Dating, First Contact, Match, Online Dating, Online Dating Sites, Screencasts, Tips & Advice, Video, Writing Messages
Here's a video demonstrating the "Who's Viewed Me" Shuffle, a Match.com searching technique that will get women to wink at you, thus conserving your resources and getting her to express interest in you. This puts you in a more favorable position when writing that first
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Match.com's iPhone App: an Overview

Match.com’s iPhone App: an Overview

| Dating, Match, Online Dating
Match.com recently released an iPhone app, so those amongst you who are lucky enough to one one of these splendid devices can quickly check the status of your account while on the go. Using this app is much like checking your Match.com profile on your web browser
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Match Winks: an Overview

Match Winks: an Overview

| Dating, First Contact, Match, Online Dating, Tips & Advice
I get a lot of questions from faithful readers about Match.com's "Wink" feature. Is it okay to use? What do you do if someone winks at you? What if you wink at someone and they don't wink back? For the guys, let me summarize it with this photo: Well, that's re
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What Online Daters Can Learn from Marketers

What Online Daters Can Learn from Marketers

| Writing Messages
Unless you live completely off the grid (though you probably wouldn't be on this website), you probably buy things at one point or another. Whether you like it or not, your purchases are influenced by marketers. Someone identified you as a potential customer, developed
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Don't Write Messages on Match.com - Get Winks!

Don’t Write Messages on Match.com – Get Winks!

| Candidate Screening, First Contact, Match, Tips & Advice
So, you've browsed dozens of profiles, reading every last detail, and you've finally got your heart set on this one woman whom you're sure is the woman of your dreams. You spend hours trying to craft the wittiest message that you can, and lo and behold - she never write
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The Match.com

The Match.com “Who’s Viewed Me” Shuffle

| Candidate Screening, First Contact, Match, Tips & Advice
The trick to having a successful first contact with a potential match is getting her to contact you first; and for her to decide to contact you, she has to see you first. So, what I like to do is make a point of clicking through to alot of (attractive) women's profiles
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Writing the “About Me” Section of Your Match.com Profile

| Dating Profile Strategy, Dating Profile Writing, Match, Tips & Advice
There are few prospects more daunting than summing yourself up in a few hundred words on an online dating profile. Look around at enough women's profiles, and you're sure to see something to the effect of "it's so hard to write about myself" time and time again. Some wo
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